Random Connect Points:
Reba's Stories

Panic, fear and worry were only a few of the emotions I felt on a Tuesday afternoon in mid-September when my mother had a second stroke. For the past two years, she has been oh-so-well-cared-for in the skilled nursing area of Still Hopes Retirement Community following a previous stroke and the death of my dad. When I walked into her room that Tuesday afternoon for a quick visit, I knew immediately something was wrong. The team sprung into action to quickly get the medical attention she needed. Over the subsequent month, I’ve tried to keep a running list of all my lessons learned and kindnesses received during this scary experience. Hopefully, these may help others who find themselves managing this type of emergency. Appreciate that the medical professionals are people first - caring, dedicated people. To a person, the medical professionals we encountered from the ambulance to the ER and the ICU to the regular hospital room at Lexington Medical Center were committed, kind, smart,

Maybe it’s my age or maybe it’s the fact that some of my current work has me skirting around the edges of politics again. I’ve recently devoured three podcast episodes and re-read a book that took me back to the policy issues and politics of the '70s and '80s that interestingly continue to shape our state today. The old adage of "the more things change, the more they stay the same" certainly plays out when looking back at how we got to where we are today. First the podcasts All three of these podcast episodes brought up political and policy issues from the '70s and '80s that still taunt South Carolina today. All three are must-listens for anyone who works in or around legislative politics and state government. ·       Podcast hosts and former state senators Vincent Sheheen and Joel Lourie spent an hour in conversation on “Bourbon in the Back Room” with long-time editorial writer Cindi Scoppe from the Post and Courier . She covered the State House for The Stat

"Hello Beautiful” by Anna Napolitano is the sweeping story of a large chaotic family in the late ‘70s – early ‘80s with more than its share of eccentricities. It’s a book about love, loss, low lows and high highs, family, forgiveness, grudges and grace.   The Padavano family of four girls and their parents live in a working class Chicago suburb. Alcoholic father + mother mired in unfulfilled dreams = four daughters who heavily depend on each other while, at the same time, also learn to rely on their individual strengths. Willams Waters, a broken young man saved only by his basketball talent, joins the family by way of his marriage to the oldest daughter, Julia. The imbalance that results throws the entire family into a series of life-altering changes. Each of the characters is developed enough to firmly illustrate their individual superpowers. For William, his superpower begins as talent in basketball. For Julia, it appears to be her ambition. The second sister Sylvie, only

Another historical fiction for the win with “ The First Ladies ” by Marie Benedict and Victoria Christopher Murray. After I really enjoyed “The Personal Librarian” earlier in the summer, this newest book by the same authors piqued my interest. This is the story of friendship, political will, and a passion for righting wrongs that First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt and Black activist Mary McLeod Bethune shared.  Many of the issues familiar in today’s culture – race, gender and divisive politics - played a big role in how these two women made their way through their individual and shared lives. Together, they wielded a behind-the-scenes power that changed the course of the civil rights movement in our country. Eleanor Roosevelt and Mary McLeod Bethune’s lives ran parallel and intersected repeatedly both in spite of and because of their shared vision for civil rights, equal education and social justice in the country. Plus, they forged a personal friendship that crossed racial lines unheard

Ten years ago this summer, I sat at the kitchen table at the beach and finally put together a blog for my writing. It wasn’t a pretty site. My design skills were non-existent. The design options for an amateur like me were minimal. At that point, it was just going to be a place for me to catalog my published writing and maybe post a few personal pieces I wrote. Ten years and 162 posts later, I’ve finally gotten around to a reboot of Random Connect Points thanks to another quiet week at the kitchen table at the beach. I can’t say my design skills have improved but the options available to an amateur designer have increased. Maybe one day I'll get around to properly tagging posts and photos so the search feature will work, but for now, I'm happy with this! My beloved yellow bike continues to grace the cover photo. The more modern “hamburger” drop down menu cuts down on clutter on the landing page. I’ve chosen a simple white background with a fun headline font. And finally afte

Every year, I dust off this “first day of first grade” photo taken in front of then-Crayton Elementary School. It makes me thankful for these girls and the many other friends who have walked with me, loved me and showed up for me along the way.  First day of first grade. Crayton Elementary  These five little girls became friends as very young children primarily because of proximity living in the same neighborhood.  (Front row: Libby Heath, Nora McArthur Fowles. Back row: Katherine DuBose Duvall, Nancy Marchant Harris, Reba Hull Campbell).  Our mothers were friends, too, because of proximity, church and family connections. I’ll always be grateful to our moms for the playgroups, carpools, spend-the-night adventures, the “six for $24 dress specials” from White’s at Richland Mall, birthday parties, watchful eyes and family trips that we all probably took for granted. By the time these five little girls reached this first day of first grade milestone, we’d known each other the better pa

Stories of local folks who’ve found national acclaim always interest me. And if they’re in the world of journalism or politics even more so. That’s part of the reason I picked up Craig Melvin’s book, "Pops," on a recent trip to the Richland Library. While I don’t know Craig personally, we’ve got enough mutual friends that I feel a little kinship with his story. While this book focuses on Craig's path to the Today show set, it’s more than just his professional story. This book explores his journey to understand and accept an unaccountable father who battled alcoholism and who wasn’t very present in Craig’s growing up years. The timing of the book lines up with Craig’s own journey as a father to his young children, Delano and Sybil. Craig’s storytelling skills from years in television translate nicely to the page with a writing style that’s conversational and descriptive without sugarcoating the challenges his family faced. He deftly balances facing down the demons he d