Thursday, January 28, 2016

Granny

Throwback Thursday post: This appeared in Blue Fish magazine in May 2014 but I never posted it here.

I have only a few patches of memories of my grandmothers. They both died before I hit my teen years, and my recollections are hazy at best.

My mother’s mother died when I was five. My recollections of her are of a tiny wisp of a gentle lady who wore shoes so small they almost fit me for dress-up when I was a very young girl.

My father’s mother died when I was 12. She lived 500 miles away in Virginia, and we saw her a couple of times a year. She would visit at Christmas dressed in lovely church clothes as she emerged from the Piedmont Airlines flight at the Columbia airport.

Both of my grandmothers were in professions traditional for women who worked in the mid 1900s. My dad’s mom, Granny, was a teacher of gifted and special ed children. My mother’s mom, Butter, was a much-beloved church secretary.

Recently Granny sat on my shoulder for a few minutes. My husband and I had met up one of his high school friends, Jackie, and her husband for a concert in Charlotte. Jackie and I had exchanged emails with details of the trip, and she had noticed my email signature that included my full name, Reba Hull Campbell.

Somehow our conversation turned to my maiden name, and Jackie mentioned her favorite teacher in all her school years had the same name as my maiden name, Hull. I mentioned in passing that my grandmother and my mother were both teachers students would have called Mrs. Hull.
 
After just a matter of sentences exchanged between us, Jackie and I figured out that my Granny was her second grade in teacher Newport News, VA. Jackie had only lived in Newport News a short time as a child because her father was in the military. She and my husband knew each other as teen-agers in Mississippi, so he had no reason to know of her early years in Virginia. This connection could have so easily gone undiscovered without the randomness of the email Jackie and I exchanged.
 
Jackie described her second grade experience as filled with my grandmother’s gentle nature, encouraging words and kindness to a young girl whose bad first grade experience could have soured her on school for life.

Chills ran through me as I imagined my Granny sitting on my shoulder at that moment listening to Jackie and me recount our collective memories of her. My mother described that kind of moment as a God wink…one of those treasured random connect points in life that that is impossible to put into words.

Jackie told me later that evening that she had felt a connection to me but didn't know why. Granny knew why, and it was just a matter of time before we discovered this amazing cross point in our lives. I feel closer to my Granny knowing she made such a difference in my friend's life.

 

Saturday, January 16, 2016

Gather, sip and read...The case for a local "Cheers factor" bookstore

With so much attention focused on all things local these days, we need to start a campaign for a locally-owned bookstore in downtown Columbia.

While Columbia has a good variety of specialty, used, religious and chain bookstores, I’m hankering for a place to find best sellers alongside home-grown poetry collections, quirky humor shelved with local history.

This bookstore would be locally-owned with a “Cheers factor” where everybody knows your name, your reading preferences and your coffee choice. It would cater to local people who love books of all types regardless of whether it’s writing them, reading them or talking about them.

Authors could give informal talks about their work. Book clubs could meet. Aspiring writers could gather. Musicians could have jam sessions. Readers could sit and read while sipping tea and nibbling on a cookie. Kids could enjoy story time.

I think back to the days of the Happy Bookseller and realize its owners were probably just ahead of their time with their approach. They understood the “Cheers factor”…friendly, knowledgeable book-lovers offering a place to gather, sip and read.

In a world today where anything can be delivered with a few taps on a keyboard, that “Cheers factor” of a local independent bookstore is missing in downtown Columbia right now.

Recent visits to Parnassus Books in Nashville (owned by author Ann Patchett), the Hub City Bookshop in Spartanburg and Malaprops in Asheville reminded me why independent bookstores can be such a sacred community space. I’m always drawn to these locally-owned stores when I travel because they offer such a unique snapshot of the city I’m visiting…and they give me an excuse to buy a hardback book.

The day I stopped in the Hub City Bookshop, I was itching to buy a hardback.

I rarely buy hardbacks anymore preferring to read on my Kindle because I can travel with several books always at my fingertips. But if I do buy a hardback, I buy it only from a local bookseller. And frequently, I’ve already read the electronic version of any hardback I buy.

I was raised to respect a book, not mark in it or turn down pages. But now, the biggest compliment I can pay a book is to buy the hardback so I can highlight favorite passages and “turns of words,” dog-ear the pages, and make notes about ideas that inspire my own writing. I’ve got to believe the writer would find that gratifying and not disrespectful.

Liz Gilbert’s new book, Big Magic, is the newest on my Kindle. I wasn’t five pages in before I realized I’d made a mistake in buying the electronic version. I needed the hardback so I could scribble and make notes in it. So when I spotted the Hub City Bookshop in Spartanburg, I quickly ducked in to buy the hardback.

The woman working in the store made a comment about how she’d liked Big Magic, and I told her about my rule of buying hardbacks only at a locally owner bookstore. She smiled. I told her I was buying the hardback after already buying the Kindle version so I could mark up the book and turn down pages. She smiled.

Ten minutes later I walked out of the store with my new hardback in hand and a huge smile on my face thinking, “Now that’s why I love a local bookstore.”

In those short few minutes, the woman in the store and I connected over other shared favorite authors like Anne Lamott, Cheryl Strayed, Anna Quindlen and Ann Patchett. I shared my love of Brene Brown’s books and Mary Oliver’s poetry with her, and she gave me a few suggestions too.
Only at a local bookstore.

Amazon can deliver a lot of things, but it can’t deliver that “Cheers factor.”